"Eve (and by extension, every woman) was created to fulfill a need in the man...she was created to be a blessing and help to Adam." To be a good, lovely help meet (one that is easy to love) takes lots of effort.
There are 3 types of women according to "Preparing to be a Help Meet" book by Debbie Pearl :
Dreamer Girls often like to create, sew, design, paint, or write. They also might get antsy when things don't happen as quickly as they think it should. It is important that these gals don't get caught up in projects that distract them from honoring and helping their husbands. These gals should spend their youth mastering their gifts and skills; so that they can one day bring honor to their husbands through them without taking away from their roles as a help
meet to their husband.
Tips to become a husband of dreamer girls :
Most prophet (visionary man) loves this girl. Just be an artistic man who loves everything about art. Then you have to make a fast decision in every aspects of your live. Why ? because this girl are impatient. Last, you have to speak about your vision because she will really happy if one of your vision is inline with her dream. Support her dreams and she will support your vision.
The Servant Girl is someone who enjoys being just that--a servant to others. It is important that they maintain their individuality and develop their gifts. Be an Encourager (someone who helps other to better themselves), not an Enabler (doing things for others that they should be doing for
themselves). Look for a vision and a purpose that is bigger than yourself for which you can strive towards. Prayer will be important on your journey. Two Scriptural examples of servant-types are Jesus and Ruth.
It is important for a Servant not to become a pitiful little brown bird person. Maintain your individuality and develop your gifts. Always keep in mind that it is good to be an Encourager, but not good to be an Enabler. An Encourager helps people better themselves. An Enabler does things for people that they should be doing for themselves, healing their self-inflicted wounds and sympathizing with their poor vices to the point that they are enabled to continue their negative behavior without facing the consequences or assuming responsibility to change. This simple concept could be key in your life.
Girls that are of the Servant type tend to become Hidden Flowers if they don’t stay focused on serving the greatest number. Keep looking for a vision. Get a purpose in life that is bigger than you, homeschooling and even family. Prayer will be an important part of your ministry.
An example of a Priestly/Servant type man found in Scripture is, of course, Jesus. The Apostle John must have been a Priestly type also. A female example would be Ruth who faithfully served her mother-in-law.
Tips to become a husband of servant girls :
Helping her do anything around the house. You have to be a a peacemaker, kind, and considerate. You have to be sweet and romantic too because she was known for being such a sweetheart. Dont't ever critize her "home-work" (such her cooks for you) because it will hurt her heart.
The Go-to Girl(Queenly) knows her place as a wife, but is also strong, capable, and gives a sense of caring for the greater number of people. They are well at organizing and have strong opinions. Be cautious in your confidence. In
Scripture, Deborah of Judges 4 is an example of a Go-to Gal; she was a judge in Israel.
Tips to become a husband of "Queenly" girl:
Be her friend, .Treat her with the respect. Do not try to change her instantly, just love her and be there for her when she needs you. If she is a queen type then she is most likely bored if she is at home a lot. She needs to be busy doing something worth while. That's why you have to be creative, ask her to travelling, routine dating. She
loves to hear "I love you" words because it means you still adore her.
No matter your personal "type", "power struggles still arise [in marriages[ especially when a girl has not been taught what God says concerning honoring her husband."
So why did God put men in charge? Well, He knew what he was doing... [the book explains this further by talking about men's nature and women's nature and how they need to blend together.]
Women were created to help and each woman/girl was created to suit a man's needs. 1 Corinthians 11:8-9 says, "For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." The first command God gave to Eve was "Your desire shall be unto your husband, and he shall rule over you." (Genesis 3:16) Want to know more about the role of a woman in relation to her husband? Read 1 Corinthians 11:3, 7-9 and Ephesians 5:23, 32-33.
Debi Pearl says, "A wife's position under her husband is where God put her for her own spiritual, emotional, and physical safety."
Two genders were created to create the complete picture of the person God wants us to be and to bring balance as a couple in the struggles of life. It is no mystery that "opposites attract".
"In the end it is not so much what type you are as whether or not you are willing to place his talents and ambitions first and then utilize your gifts to assist him...a good woman serving him will bring out the MAN in him."
Here's a message to men:
Your woman is as beautiful as the way you treat her. As you marry her and then you find that she becomes worse that you dreamed of, then check yourself. Is it you who causes her to become 'uglier'? Partners in marriage will be like mirror. When you look at her, you look at your own reflection as well. That is why God says to men to love their wives as to love his own body. So love her deeply, intensely, and consistently. There is no woman who will not be beautiful when she wears the dress of love.
Above all, prioritize her needs above your own. That is what Jesus does to the Church. He sacrifices himself for us. A calling to become a husband is indeed a calling to lead like Jesus. It is a privilege, yet it also come with a huge responsibility. Please do not misuse the authority and power you have to destroy, but to build up what He has entrusted to you, His princess, your woman, your only wife.