August 17, 2010
Fear and Love
What is the first thing that come into your mind when you read the title? What do you imagine? What is fear? What is love? Aren't they just emotions? Yet somehow these emotions are the source of every thought, word, and behaviour that we do in our daily life. They have such a great power that can change one's life become extra ordinary or completely the opposite of it. Some people may say that emotions in difficult to control. It just happens by our own nature. Yup.. I think it is. Yet still we can learn to manage and decide which emotion that will dominate in our whole life.
To give fear a chance to abide in our hearts and grow is like building a wall in many areas in our lives. We cannot expect to increase our level of life when we maintain the wall of fear inside. Fear simply makes our world smaller. We will not make new friends, go to learn new things, try to apply for new jobs, etc when we have fear to get out from our comfort zone. Many people do realize they will suffer for a lot of concequences when they maintain the fear inside. Yet most of people choose that way rather than facing a lot of uncertainties outside. This might explain why we have fewer leaders than the followers since the leaders are the one who dare to take unusual step forward when others do not =)
I believe that facing fear is a constant struggle for every one. People are just having different level of fear. No one is free from fear. Even small conflict which appear in daily activity may be caused by fear. For example, when a girl is angry when her boyfriend goes with another girl is actually driven by fear of losing him. She couldn't help with it. Fear is the mother of other negative emotions, such as anger, jealousy, bitterness, anxiety, etc. It is a feeling that makes our days blue but do not have any contribution to make it better. So.. let's get to the main point.. Why do we choose fear?
Perfect love, on the other hand, reduces fear. Love is such a great power that opens one soul to another while the fear closes it down. Love embraces, gives, fills, satisfies, and all the more that make people are dying to experience the true version of it. Love trusts. Love takes risk of being rejected. Love accepts. I guess love is about being courageous. We cannot open our soul to another when we fear of being rejected. We need to take risk. We need to take courage. And sometimes, maybe that is all we need to make a difference. If we ask why aren't our lives attractive, maybe we need to ask ourselves whether have we taken any risks of experiencing other things outside our comfort zone or not? When we have conflict with our partner, maybe we need to ask ourselves what do I fear of now? Why do I feel the way I feel? Do I act in love or fear? It may help to clarify the source of problem amd solve it right ahead.
Fear and love are emotions that we can choose to live in. Fear may always exists but it does not have to hold control of us. When we don't focus on it and give love a chance to grow more, we can get through fear. Fear also make us focuses on ourselves. It builds our ego and selfishness. Thereby, we need to focus more to the outside, to others. Give undivided attention to the needs outside and try to fulfill it. There is such a great joy when we give out of love rather than holding back out of fear.
Okayy it seems a bit theoristic don't they? Well, for me fear is really really a constant struggling. I was a shy girl before. I could not make friends easily and I was very concerned of what people think about me. Sounds familiar? I find that what I had faced before was being faced by millions of people out there. Yet one thing that changed my life was when I simply decide to change. I should not nurture the fear inside. I had to take courage. It really is a constant struggling. Day by day, I have to choose not to leave out of fear. I believe every body can change also =) It happens when we simply to choose to act in love instead doing nothing in fear. Expand your wings, your horizons. There are a lot.. a lot of marvelous things out there. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be affraid, for I [God] am with you. What a wonderful promise of God. He's with us all the time. Remember that. He's there when you fall and He's ready to lift you up to higher place. So.. take courage.. the world is waiting for you!